This Week’s Menu:

Breakfast: Oatmeal with fruit, smoothie bowls, banana pancakes

Lunch: Sweet and Sour chicken with organic “fried” cauliflower rice, Teriyaki chicken and vegetables, taco bowls
Dinner: Chipotle chicken, grilled chicken and salad, ground chicken and zoodles,

Snacks: Greek yogurt, chicken wontons, protein shakes, pears, nut mix.

I will be continuing to do intermittent fasting. So instead of the breakfast choices, I will somehow incorporate breakfast into a later meal.

We’ll be sure to post pictures

 

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Goals, Milestones, & More Goals

Last night I reached a new milestone: I leg pressed 225 lbs. It’s definitely an accomplishment for me since I didn’t think I was capable of it. It doesn’t seem like much, but to me it was something I was proud of.  I’ve always preached about pushing yourself, and last night I did just that. If you have goals, it is so important to push yourself. Don’t push yourself until your body gives out, but push yourself with self-care yet determination. I was staying in a place of average when I could have done so much better. My passion for the gym is my greatest moments of criticizing myself. I was proud of myself, but really disappointed I didn’t try sooner. No one wants to be that guy in the gym who tries something and looks like an idiot. Without trying, there is no room for progress.

With that being said here’s my new goal: In a month, leg press 245 lbs. Each week, I’d like to add on five pounds, resulting in twenty pounds from my original accomplishment.

I’d also like to have a much more consistent gym schedule and see five pounds of muscle added onto my current weight. I would like to push myself more than I ever have and achieve my goals.

-Jason

Okay, Angebel here-

I’m so proud of Jason for reaching a milestone. Witnessing him doing so made me realize that a lot of our setbacks root from us thinking we can’t do something. Sometimes all you have to do is try.

So with watching my husband do his things- I HIT A MILESTONE. I leg pressed 135 lbs. That may not be much to some folks, but to me it is. I suppose I didn’t push myself the way could have.

I’ve been pretty obsessed with working on back and arms. Along with Jason, I have a weight goal too. I want to be down to 130 pounds. I’m not too far away from the goal, number wise. However, lately my weight hasn’t gone down.

After my 24th birthday I felt my body changing. Perhaps it’s the metabolism. Whatever it is, I’m pushing to that 130.

I’m also actively working towards a goal in the gym, but I’ll be talking about that in a later post.

So here’s to milestone and new goals. We always appreciate tips and advice.

All the Best,

Angebel

 

 

 

The Ocean and The Moon

You
You are the ocean floor
Impossible to reach
but worthy to explore
You are my love
You are my delight
You question me often
but I know my rights.
You put the winds in my sails
You are the ocean’s waters
fulfilling and drowning,
You have strong powers.
You- are an ocean of secrets.
You are an ocean that cries.
I discover you in between
You are what’s mine.
You- are my favorite
-fish of the sea.
Impossible to catch,
but the man for me.
You-
are an ocean’s roar.
You let loose,
you want more.
What’s got the ocean angry?
What’s it about tonight?
There’s something about that rage,
he wants a fight.
– The moon –
Perhaps she has the blame.
The waters reflect her faults
she defends herself in shame.
She breaks in half, she leaves
she waits for him, they’re hooked
they blame one another for departing
“I’ve never left,” they both say, “just look.”
He is the ocean,
She is the moon,
She wanted to be longed for,
He wanted to be understood.
You blame the moon,
You wouldn’t be this way if the sun was out.
Perhaps the moon liked the way the ocean slept
-his soothing demeanor
His waters of depth.
“Goodnight Ocean”
“Goodnight Moon”
They say their goodbyes
but they’ll be together soon.
His heart is an ocean,
her favorite place is the sea
sure, she’s with him always,
but at a certain place they meet.
They have a love for each other
that no element can come in between.
You see these two have much in common,
they’re watched yet misunderstood
nobody knows how much they cry each other,
yes, the ocean and the moon.

-a.g.c

Excerpt from “When Love Arrives”

But love is not perfect and will sometimes forget
When you need to hear it most
You are beautiful
Do not forget this
Love is not who you were expecting
Love is not what you can predict
Maybe love is in New York City already asleep
You are in California, Australia, wide awake
Maybe love is always in the wrong timezone
Maybe love is not ready for you
Maybe you are not ready for love
Maybe love just isn’t the marrying type
Maybe the next time you see love is twenty years after the divorce
Love looks older now, but just as beautiful as you remember
Maybe love is only there for a month
Maybe love is there for every firework, every birthday party, every hospital visit
Maybe love stays
Maybe love can’t
Maybe love shouldn’t…
Love arrives exactly when love is supposed to
And love leaves exactly when love must
When love arrives say,
“Welcome, make yourself comfortable”
If love leaves, ask her to leave the door open behind her
Turn off the music, listen to the quiet
Whisper,
“Thank you for stopping by”

-Sarah Kay & Phillip Kaye

 

Unity & the damage of expectations

Love As It Has Been Experienced

I can say a lot of people enter relationships and more so marriages without the knowledge of what unity really is.  Many people enter marriages even with a distorted view on what a union really is. At one point or another, we have all faced disappointments in life. It isn’t only when we are children. We don’t ever really outgrow having expectations of others. Above all else, unfortunately our partners will most likely experience the most with that. Our partners, specifically our husbands or wives are for life. When we have expectations, we expect our partners to fulfill them. When they fail to meet our expectations, we become disappointed and bitter, and ultimately it leaks out havoc into our union.

Say you interpreted love in a healthy way. Your parents loved you, they prioritized their union, you witnessed honor, respect, value, sacrifice, and unconditional love. Your mind will likely process that and have expectations like you experienced. What happens with that is that we expect things to happen so quickly when in reality, marriages are all based on time, experience, and true growth. If you perhaps grew up in a single parent home where you had nothing to refer back to. Your perception of what marriage should be is more so an idea rather than anything you encountered. And a truly difficult way to have an idea on union is when were abandoned, neglected, abused, or grew up in the system. With that type of life, you grew up with no protection, no stability, no security, no common ground, no one who had your back. You were too busy trying to make it to understand what exactly a healthy union is supposed to look like. You enter a union with no example of what love actually is.

How Do You Unite?

I would like to point out that we interpret love the way we experienced it. Whenever you felt loved, that is going to in turn respond to how you turn it into every relationship thereafter. If you grew up in a household with both parents, they loved each other unconditionally, they valued, honored, respected, trusted, and truly had each others backs, you had an idea of what a union should look like in a healthy way. All couples go through storms. There is no couple that is somehow untouched. However, the couples that remain side by side, hand in hand, walking with each other, guiding each other, and carrying each other, those are those ones where hard times happen, but they go through the storm together. 

 

Together.

Wanna hear a truth? YOUR expectations can damage your marriage.

Unity is understanding that it’s only the two of you. You become one flesh with your husband or your wife. Not your parents, not your siblings, not your children. Not anyone else, despite what they’ve done for you. The purpose of marriage is two coming together, in a sacred covenant. No where does it say we become one flesh with anyone else but our husbands and wives.

As husband and wife, we made the vow to walk through the journey of life with this person for the rest of our lives. When a storm hits, comes a fork. There’s a huge crack in the road that creates a fork. The fork in the road is either: go separate ways OR create a new road together. Sometimes we need to go against the hardships and instead of turning away, let the hardships bring you closer. This is the journey of you and your partner for life. It is truly mind blowing to realize that once we say “I do”, it should be a priority to keep that foundation of the union together. No where does it say that you become one only when things are good, when you’re seeing eye to eye. The point of becoming one flesh means that person and you are supposed to be for life. Unfortunately, this society will up and leave for the smallest things. When hardships come throughout your journey, couples many times do separate and become distant till it hits the final blow. By no means does this mean that you have to stay and endure abuse. If your spouse is unwilling to change, that does not mean that you should continue enduring it. That is extremely unhealthy for your own well-being.  By coming together, I mean that you should be fighting the hardships together as a team. You should know that no matter what, your partner is your teammate for life. They have your back no matter what. Far too many times, struggles make couples go their separate ways instead of joining together and clinging onto each other.

Unity takes effort. It takes two. We must build together a union. Your unity is something that you absolutely have to take care of and guard. You have to be on full alert, making sure it’s being fed health. In order for there to be growth in anything in life, we must nurture it, water it, and feed it to grow. It is as if you have a plant and expect that not giving it the proper care will make it grow. Without nourishment, nothing will ever grow.

Unity is the evident intention of marriage. Disunity is a rebellious act.  Choosing to not unite with your partner, is only fooling you. You’re one flesh, remember?

“Any kingdom divided against itself is laid waste…” – Matthew 12:25 Hence the different types of personalities, not everything about you and your spouse will be the same. But, one thing SHOULD be the same: the goal and the mission. Put together the things in common and the differences too.

Choose unity.

 

-Jason & Angebel Castellani union-of-hearts-not-hands-does-a-marriage-make-and-sympathy-of-mind-keeps-love-awake-quote-1d24db7532c437a7eb1fef61f7a88713923cf543cc0153e5991b5c76a885118b6--quotes-marriage-marriage-lifeunnamed-3

 

 

 

Recharge, takes a turn.

Angebel here-

On Tuesdays, we talk about recharge. With our series from last week, it was discovered that Jason is an INTJ and that I am an ENFP. Compatible according to psychologists, but ultimately- opposites.

Today I started a new job, at an endocrinologist office. With other personal things on my mind, the day was twisting and turning. Since moving up to New York, I have spent every waking moment with my husband. We worked from home, and it was us all day every day.

Being an extrovert, I did (do) need social interaction. Now, I don’t know if all ENFPs are the same- but there are times that I just need a quick boost and then I’m done. I have to go. I can’t be around too many people for too long.

This job is temporary.  My husband didn’t want me to work (outside of home).  The energy at my new job is chilled, but I missed my husband so much. I remember at my old job I enjoyed the conversations with my patients. I went home and enjoyed my time with my husband.

At this point, getting back out to the [outside] work field, I just looked around and kept to myself. I kept telling myself, “this is a new beginning.” In a recent post, I talked about our friends, Mary and Josh. Josh who is an introvert said that meeting someone is kinda like “having to assemble something all over again.”

It totally makes sense now. I asked questions, because for the first time, people felt like strangers.

 

 

Back to Basics

At one point I had mentioned I was doing intermittent fasting for about a year or so. I recently had stopped completely and started eating breakfast again. I actually prefer to do the fasting; I have a lot of energy when I am. There are many health benefits to fasting as well. I am combining the breakfast with the lunch. With fasting you just skip breakfast but still stay in your calorie deficit while eating bigger portions.

Here’s the Menu for This Week:

Breakfast:
Oatmeal (Usually includes chopped banana or another type of fruit, pepitas, raw almonds, sunflower seeds, natural peanut butter and sometimes a tablespoon of protein powder)

Lunch:
Shredded BBQ Chicken with broccoli and cauliflower
Teriyaki Chicken with broccoli
Sweet and sour chicken with fried cauliflower rice
Turkey Sausage with zoodles

Dinner:
Ground chicken BBQ burgers with zoodles and salad

Snacks:
Smoothie bowl, pear, apple with almonds, plain greek yogurt with cinnamon and sugar free maple syrup and fruit.