Angebel’s corner.

Thanks to Jason, I was introduced to Charles Bukowski. I have fallen in love with the way his work has awaken my writing senses. He’s a mad man. I want to be a mad woman. I never want to hold back ever again when I write.

“Some people never go crazy. What truly horrible lives they must lead”

On Tuesday my husband talked about the things we do to recharge. He also tapped into some of the things I deal with mentally (anxiety and depression). I also deal with PTSD.

Mental health was a taboo topic growing up. It was forbidden to talk about depression because it led to be being accused that you weren’t a believer. As I got older and told people about some of things that happened to me, they always asked if I went to counseling. “No” was always my response. I’ve seen a mixture of the raised eyebrows, a jaw-drop, or a ‘trying really hard not to show any expression’ look.

I encourage counseling. Do not let anyone discourage you from it.

Overall, my hope is found in Jesus. Jesus is my anchor. Only truth and stability that I have experienced.

When the motions of life, and- mental health come crashing in, seek truth.

With love,



Find Your Courage

“Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.” – Tori Ames

Today is recharge day. This week’s topic is healing, so I want to just take a moment to say that recharging is healing. It doesn’t matter how much you like or dislike social interaction, it doesn’t matter what you do, or what your life is like, we all need to recharge. We all need to take time for ourselves to be alone. Being in my solitude I come up with the most solutions. My brain never sleeps. I am trying to come up with new ideas, resolutions, something new to learn. My brain is wired that way. In my time alone and solitude, I do find healing.

Let me say this to you: Healing does take courage. So after the other post that mentioned the analogy of us starting out as plants, let me remind you that we do need to dig deep down to find it. Sometimes recharging puts things into perspective. And most certainly do we have to do the hard work and dig; sometimes a lot deeper than other times, in or where the healing needs to take place. I would like to remind you that it is okay to water your own plant and it is okay to nourish your plant. Not only is it okay, but it is completely necessary. Do not be so wrapped up with things, people, etc, that you neglect your entire being altogether. There is a line between selfishness and neglect. Do not forget to take care of your well-being. Healing takes place where courage leads the way. Have the courage to do so and start by taking care of yourself.







Where Healing Begins

I will be discussing this week on healing. I would like to point out that I have mentioned I am pursing to be a neuropsychologist. It seems like such a big word. Ive actually been told so recently how much hard work involves with this career choice. As for me, the brain and its functions are something I am so extremely passionate about. Recently, there was a week about personality types. I am most definitely sure that a majority of my career choice is due to my personality type. As an INTJ, I do excessive amounts of research. I am all about logistics and solving things. A neuropsychologist is all about finding solutions. My passion derives right there at the roots. I will be doing something I am passionate about. It is a job where you never stop learning. I cant think of a job that I would be more passionate about and learn so many things on a daily basis. As an INTJ, a career field in which you constantly are learning new things is such a refreshing thing. What some neuropsychologists don’t do is focus on the parts of the brain to see the actual roots. Many scientists, rather more than a majority of science believes that you cannot ever truly heal from a mental illness. I don’t think I can change the entire world. Maybe, perhaps, I can change just a little. I am not a follower, I have been a leader. And I hope to change this system into believing that there is true healing in mental illness recovery. I chose this career because I want to be different. It seems like that is the root of my life-different.

“Sometimes you don’t realize the weight of something you’ve been carrying until you feel the weight of its release”

Is healing possible?

First, let me tell you that the answer is yes. Imagine us all starting out as plants that we need to be planted in an environment where we thrive. But imagine being planted in an environment where we were not given the proper nourishment. If we are around toxic things, we start to grow roots that are unhealthy. We start to wither away and wilt. In return, the plant does its best to stay alive. However, maybe it turns to unhealthy nourishment in order to survive. Not getting its proper nourishment, but still getting by, it continues to survive, but not truly live. When we face issues that we do not know how to deal with, a mental disorder can occur. But, lets look at the word disorder. When something is disordered, we fix it. Your mind is a puzzle. Your pieces were shaken, they were scattered, but they were not lost.

I believe in two kinds of mental disorder occurrences. Some mental disorders are a resort of trauma, dysfunction, and abuse. Some mental disorders are a chemical imbalance. Some of us didn’t experience any kind of abuse, neglect, or traumatic event(s) in our lives, yet we still face the hardships of mental disorders because of the chemical imbalance in our brains. For those of us who have experienced the spiraling effects of an illness due to trauma, something has been disordered in your brain. You were planted in an unhealthy environment. You were not given proper nourishment or care. You grew with roots attached to you that have only added on more roots. And now that you are an adult you don’t know how or even where to cut the roots. Where did it start? And it may require a lot of digging, but once you find the root, thats also connected to many other roots, that most certainly is when healing takes place. I believe so. In order to get to the root of the problem, it takes a tremendous amount of courage and strength to endure the damage that has taken place.

As for the other part, I believe unlike majority of people that even those with a chemical imbalance can overcome their mental illness as well. If you’ve ever been to a psychiatrist, psychologist, or even many therapists, they will tell you that you cannot ever get better. Really, they say the only end result for mental health disorders is simply: management. A psychiatrists job is where it is their duty to prescribe medication. They believe that is the only way for you to manage your mental health. To the science aspect, once shifted has been shifted, there is no room for growth. I am not entirely sure how the roots would be solved for healing to take place in a chemical imbalance. Yet, still, I believe there is a resolution to this unfixed problem.

Where do you start?

This has got to be one of the most difficult things that you will solve in your life. It requires a lot of digging, a lot of old wounds, maybe even experiencing things all over again, remembering traumatic things, etc. But, the only way out is through. There is no such thing as healing being easy. But in the end, it will be worth it. To dig from the ground up, it requires you to do things you have never done. Let me go back to us starting off as plants. Maybe this is where you will start- going back to where your roots are, and reflecting where they still are right now. Are you in an environment that you currently thrive in? Are you flourishing? Are you growing? Are you repairing? When we experience things that create toxic roots, we must cut the roots. In order to live and not just survive, we need to get out of the environment in which we are not able to grow. Nutrients are vital in order for us to not only survive, but to live. But we don’t just want any kind of nutrients, we should want the right kind. Be a gardener and weed out all of the toxic roots.

Be a gardener and weed out all of the toxic roots of the garden that no one else tended to nourish.

Let me go back to stating how our minds are puzzles. When you have a puzzle in front of you, you try to piece together the pieces that fit right. Like mentioned above, your puzzle was shaken. That puzzle of your mind was shaken. But the good news is; it can be put back together. There are psychiatrists who will tell their patient that no matter what they do, no matter what goals they have, etc, that in the end without medication, they are basically nothing. Imagine hearing that. Just envision that for a moment. Imagine having hope for goals, being something, being someone, imagine trying to rise above what you know and strive to become better. After all, shouldn’t we all be striving to be better? That should be the goal in life. You should never stop growing, learning, and wanting better. You should never settle. But the system will tell you that without their bandage that you will continuously relapse. That you will ever only manage your symptoms but as far as healing, it just is not in the cards for you. With medication, you can live a normal life with symptoms still coming out, but you will never truly be able to overcome it. When you place a bandage on something, does that bandage heal the wound? No, it simply just covers it. While medication can be extremely beneficial to some, telling someone that in order for them to function properly in society, they need medication to succeed in life. Imagine how detrimental that is to someone who is trying to piece back together their life and has hope.

How important is support when trying to recover?

First and foremost, we all need support no matter who we are or where we come from. I do not want to sound redundant as in repeating the same things over and over again. But the plant analogy really makes a lot of sense. If you are in toxic soil, please, do yourself a favor and uproot yourself from that environment. Easy? Many times, no. Worth it? Absolutely. In order to grow, we need nutrients to do so. Many people wonder why it feels as if there is a weight on their shoulders; just like the quote above. And many reasons can stem from the environment you are currently in. Find someone who plants seeds of life. Someone who wants to see you flourish, grow, and stand tall. When you realize the outcome of getting out bad soil and replacing it with good, finding people to lift you up, you wont ever settle. You never should. Support is extremely vital for everyone in this life. Overcoming a mental health disorder through the agonizing weight of that, support most certainly is needed. And sometimes we may fail to realize that no support is better than toxic support. Many people in this life fear being alone. But whats worse is being around people who feed you things to make you wilt. And surely, there is no healing with someone constantly tearing you down. A mental health disorder is already a battle of your mind. So don’t you understand that someone tearing down your mind even more than the battle you face within you every single day is most certainly worse? The good news is- you wont always be alone. Find a network of support or at least one person who you can trust. Focus on your healing. Expecting a plant to grow in toxic soil is no more ridiculous sounding then to expect anything to blossom without proper care. We all need support, yes. But don’t be sucked into thinking that you would rather have toxic support then to have no one. Remember- start at your roots. Cutting off roots of toxicity is where it begins. This is the root of digging down to weed out everything. If you perhaps to have a network of support or a significant other whom you trust, lean on them in hard times. After all, believe me when I say, two is better than one.



First, allow me to apologize for my absence this past weekend. I was dealing with a personal situation. Due to today being Mental Health & Psychology Mondays, we had chosen to do a series on our very own personalities. Personalities overall play a huge role in our daily interactions with everyone and everything. Psychology is the mind, therefore, this would most certainly be something that should be discussed. How we view, perceive, interpret, and overall function or not function for a lack of a better word with some people, has a lot to do with our personalities. There are certain things that shape us and ultimately, we can grow and learn from things, but there are things that our personalities have been molded and shaped with that will never change. This week will be a week to discover things maybe you have overlooked. Maybe you will discover things about your own self through this week. This week’s series: THE MIND OF AN INTJ and ENFP.

It is not proven, but perhaps by my own perception of my own individual self, I would consider INTJ’s the most intense introverts. According to 16Personalities, this INTJ is 99% introverted. How much more introverted could you possibly get? Rather a rhetorical question. A little insight on the research I have discovered of INTJ’s and my own perception of myself, I enjoy solitude much more than your average person. INTJ’s are rarely stimulated with people, and if they are, it means they truly see something in you. Imagine being so interesting that someone truly chooses to invest their time into you. You may even become so interesting you become apart of their solitude at times. You are that intriguing, you are that peaceful. Those I have invested my time into, they are people that have peaked my interest level in ways I cannot describe. I live a majority of my life more so inside my head. Coming up with ideas, solutions, etc. My brain is like a scattered amount of wires that need to be connected to endless amounts of connections. I am constantly coming up with new ideas.  So when an INTJ finds someone that wants to help them find solutions to all the connections they have running along in their minds, you have been matched. You have caught their interest. Before you catch an INTJ’s eye, you catch our minds first. I have a keen instinct with people. I know it and have always been told. I just know about people without even getting more than a conversation in. I have been right more times than not. My instincts have not failed me with people. It is rather a challenge to gain my interest. When you have surpassed the level of interest and reached the level of trust with an INTJ, we are known to be very loyal to those we love. INTJ’s are more so the types to only dedicate their time to things and people that stimulate their mind, that challenge them, that intrigue them and things and people they can learn something from. That is overall my entire being. It truly is. I rarely have ever been intrigued by people. I don’t talk to people just to talk for the sake of social interaction. I would truly rather be alone than to sit around and waste my time on dull and meaningless conversation. I hate small talk. I literally despise it. I pretty much have no idea what to even say. Awkward doesn’t even come close to describe how I react to small talk. It is truly an obstacle. I know in life you have to do small talk, but it doesn’t come natural to me. I have been told my awkwardness with it, and although it is sometimes a barrier I wish came more natural, it just is apart of who I am.

This week I’ll be incorporating the [art of] differences between humans. Some times some people don’t get along, and really it’s just our personality types. Some personalities just don’t click. If you have ever encountered, which I am sure you have,  a person you just cannot ever seem to click with whatsoever, it probably is the differences with your personalities. No matter what you say or do, you just always seem to clash. We have and all will experience many people like that in our lives. It is an unfortunate reality.   I won’t focus on just that though. We will talk about functions, how we see the world in views and in our heads.

Our lenses. Imagine going to the eye doctor- there’s a prescription, just for you. What we come from, what we’ve come to has shaped our lenses. The pair of lenses you have is just for you, and for you alone. No one will be able to wear your lenses and see the same things as you. Perhaps differences with our perceptions of the world is also through the lenses that are prescribed just for us. No one will ever see the world through your lens. No matter what personality you have, none of us are exactly the same. No one experienced the same exact things as you. You have started off as clay, you have been molded and shaped by your experiences, your perceptions, your reflection on things, your interpretations of things and people, or even misinterpretations of people. You, and you alone, have your very own prescribed lens. No one will ever have the same thoughts, nor the same mind is you. Dive into that and embrace your individuality.


People’s perception of us is not always how things really are, and vice versa- of course.

Our morals, beliefs, reflection, knowledge, understanding, and views can be changed and shifted. It’s called growth.

Stay tuned, it’ll be an interesting week.




I dreamed as a young child
Oh the fascination with the world
My thoughts ran wild.

I grew up quick; but oh how I was passionate in my youth
I was on a quest for my identity
I was just a kid looking for the real truth.

I differentiated from all of these unknown people, I was so different from the others
I was lost in the unknown
My mind was filled with an endless fascination of life’s extraordinary wonders.

I did not desire to fit in, I differentiated for a subtle cause
I may have been lost in the shadows of the unknown
But I wanted to be grounded, I prevented anyone knowing the root of my identity loss.

Looking at myself it was as if I was non existent; as if I fell from the earth of nothing more than a stone from a mere pocket collection
I was not of this world
I saw it in the mirror, an unknown reflection.

I was wandering, inside I was lost
Trapped in drowning chaos
I tumbled and tossed.

I was a ship set out at high sea
I was searching to find my way
The ship was trying desperately to get through all of the debris.

I was drowning but doing my best to stay afloat at all cost
My ship had long been wrecked
The ship was in pieces, and my heart turned so cold it was covered in frost.

My identity is gone, I am at a loss
I was going through hell with all of these scattered pieces, but I dare not tell a single soul
I continued to set my sail, deep in my thoughts I ask myself “Would I ever make it across”?


-Jason Castellani